Knowing Fort Greely is a remote base in Alaska, from the start we understood an unaccompanied assignment was a possibility. Now it is reality. Fil’s tour has been reduced to one year, and he will go alone. Because of Brock’s IEP for speech, the Alaska garrison has denied us. Please don’t take that harshly, it is for our own good. Basically what it boils down to is that the services he requires are not available at the location. The army does these screenings so that family member’s needs are taken care of. We absolutely knew it was possible that we could be denied but were hopeful. I researched and know that the school there does have the services available but it is our guess that their caseload is already full or maybe those services will not be available in the future.
I have been given the ability to choose where I will live with Brock during our upcoming year apart. We are going to have a lot of conversations in the coming days and weeks, and just as many decisions to make. Where I will go, what I will take, what goes with Fil, sell our car or keep it, where to send the things we put in storage 4 years ago before we left Virginia, the process of setting up two households, finding the best credit card/frequent flyer card for all the airline miles we will be raking up on visits, and lucky for us we need to make all these plans fast. Because that the army. We have 45 days until we absolutely have to be out of Germany with all loose ends tied nicely but ideally Brock and I will fly out in about 20 so Brock can have a proper Christmas with most of our family. Fingers crossed Fil makes it out in time. With all this mess the least we can do is make sure Brock can feel the Christmas magic with his Grandparents. (and you can bet your butt that he is getting that too expensive toy that he really wanted)
I’ve said it before, but now it is really true. Worst PCS ever.
P.S. We are not unrealistic. We know we are fortunate. We are so thankful that we are not facing a deployment. Leaving an overseas posting and going to another has its complications, and those complications just got a lot bigger.
P.P.S. the picture above was taken almost exactly 4 years ago. TIME FLIES. If we have learned anything over these 4 years it is just that, and our next year will fly too.
A miracle happened. As you all know, Fil came home for a week around Halloween but was due to go back to the Norway. He was due to leave on a Sunday, and I somehow convinced him to come away with us to the Black Forest Friday through Saturday. Most of the day Friday I could tell he regretted it. At that point he still did not know where nor when to meet on Sunday for his flight and was anxious it would get moved up while we were 3 hours from home. Around 4 pm, just as we came down from the mountain waterfall, Fil got a call and relaxed. They had it covered and he could stay home with us! Now, fully relaxed we really enjoyed our little getaway to the land of smoked ham, chocolate cake, and cuckoo clocks. Continue reading
Happy Halloween everyone! Neither Fil nor I grew up in families that made a big deal of Halloween. I always had a cool costume thanks to my mom and her sewing machine, but trick or treating was it for us. This year Brock was REALLY excited for Halloween. I don’t know where his excitement came from but he was all about it. We listened to Halloween music every time we got in the car during October and as the month went on we hung more and more decorations. Our living room and dining room are decorated to the max! Continue reading
Today I want to get real with you all. This life in Europe is a dream come true, yes. I have gotten to see and experience so many things I dreamed of, and so many more that I didn’t even know about before coming here. I feel personally blessed to have been able to live abroad for these nearly 4 years. But it is also a struggle every single day. My heart is breaking for Brock. He misses his daddy so much he cries for him saying between the tears “I want daddy to come home”. In many ways Brock is flourishing here, but as of lately has been regressing and I can only attribute it to his heartache. As a mother that kills me. Continue reading
Sometimes things just work out perfectly. Towards the end of July, the moons aligned and a really good friend of mine was able to come visit. Timing was perfect for her, but also me… Fil had 4 days off so she and I were able to explore Germany sans Brock for a few days, and when she left it led right into a crazy week so it was nice to be out adventuring.
As with everyone who ventures across the Atlantic to see us, I try to find new adventures so that we can share the new experience. For Elaine’s visit, we did a treetop walk with views of the Saar river, a wine hike in Bernkastel-Kues, Schloss Drachenburg, and finally a day trip over the border to Strasbourg, France. We really filled everyday with adventures and I am so grateful she came to share these with me. Big plus—Elaine is a photographer so we have amazing pictures! Most of the pictures I will use in these blogs about our travels are hers, and you can see them all and more at this link (this is a temporary album so make sure to look at them soon). Continue reading
I think that time actually flies quicker in Europe. It is hard to believe that when we boarded our first flight to Germany Brock was only 3 months old, and now, as of yesterday, he is 4 years old! It went too fast! The lead up to this birthday was chaos in our house. One of my oldest friends came for a 10 day visit, more on that later, that took us right up to Thursday. Friday was Fil’s Change of Command ceremony, Saturday was Brock’s Birthday party, Monday was the big day, his actual birthday, and today, Tuesday, Fil left bright and early for a well-deserved fishing trip before spending the next few months away on mission. I almost feel like I can catch my breath, but alas we have a busy week before flying to the States for my sister’s wedding. Whew! I am looking forward to September. Continue reading
For being three and a half years old Brock has quite the schedule. German Kindergarten 4 times a week, speech therapy 3 times a week, gymnastics on Tuesday, and possibly his favorite, Mini Feuerwehr (mini fire department) on Thursdays at the village firehouse. Every other week Brock gets to learn how to be a fireman thanks to a few volunteers who run the Mini’s program at our fire department. We are good friends with the fire chief, and he proudly told us that this program for the youngest kids is the only in our entire state, Rhineland-Pfalz. Continue reading
December is chock full of anniversaries for our family. This year marked our 3rd anniversary in Germany, 4th Christmas in Germany, 7th wedding anniversary, and the one year anniversary of our last miscarriage. 2017 has been a year of struggle, growth, and recovery but 2018 looks bright. Continue reading
Somehow all of the Autumn season has slipped by, and now we are in a wicked winter season. Just last week we had thunder snow! A first experience for me, and very bizarre to watch through our giant living room windows. Since that storm, we have had 2 more… but luckily our nights have been warm so the inches of snow disappear while we sleep.
Brock is indifferent about the snow. He likes to talk about it but he doesn’t like it to fall on his face. He is a fan of a good snowball fight, and his daddy and I happily oblige. Playing in the snow with Brock is so much fun. He has many outside trucks that we scoop the snow into and drive around our snowy construction yard.
With our DEROS (Date Estimated Return from Overseas) fast approaching I started thinking about all the things in Germany we will miss. Our German friends, localized foods, festivals, the option to travel… the list goes on. And at the same time looking forward to our next adventure. Somewhere new in the States for us probably. Someplace that Brock would start school. Someplace that maybe we would buy our first home. Turns out I was a little premature. But my nails will say it all… Continue reading